Confidence is in your Control

There are some pretty distant concepts about confidence and about how as an emotion and state of mind, it can be utilised or harnessed with just a certain mindset and although I’d never confess to having too much confidence; I strongly believe it’s something that can be mastered, despite not having perfected it myself.

I seem to always reference these buddhist readings but those guys really seem to have a knack of complete control and although I don’t advocate buddhism, or any religion as a matter of fact, I think the mainstream West could learn a significant amount from the way they separate their emotions, casting anything unbeneficial to one side. With this in mind, confidence is in your control, separating thoughts of discomfort (because surely, this is the root of confidence) from logical thought patterns, and discarding them, is the secret to achieving eternal control. Almost impossible, though, you might say.

However, consider this; all of our behavioural characteristics are inherited, either genetically but more curiously environmentally i.e. the people around you directly affect the way you behave, I don’t mean so much as a bad or positive influence but more they build you as a persona, you are a jigsaw of the people you know; so with this in mind and the fact that everybody else is also constructed by external influences, what gives anybody a right to be more confident than you? It doesn’t. We’re all in the same position. So maybe we don’t need total control, because realistically the majority of us aren’t able to master such an advanced skill. Maybe just a bit of perspective was needed.

by Rob Henderson